Thank you so much for chiming in, Frederick, and sorry to read about your mom. No doubt stigma was much, much worse for her generation than it is now.
My mom — thankfully still alive —has lived with depression most of her adult life too. I’m not sure when it started exactly, but I know she had terrible postpartum depression that was never addressed and continued to blight her life, eventually morphing into something that never goes away.
Unfortunately, her generation (baby boomers) still doesn’t open up easily for fear of being a bother, of imposing on others, of being judged, all behaviors I’ve inherited from her and which I am trying to push back against, in print.
While it’s difficult work, I’m heartened by responses such as yours because it means my writing isn’t in vain, even though it feels like shouting into the void most days.